There’s one big truth about the question of “should we see each other before the ceremony” which never gets talked about – but makes a huge difference for the wedding couple. And it’s not about making more time for the cocktail hour or anything like that.
No, it’s about something way bigger. Something way more meaningful to the couple.
Two things, actually. So I’ve pointed them both out in this article.
I saw this in action at this wedding. The bride and groom were not going to see each other prior to the ceremony but at the very last minute had a change of heart.
And they had some great moments doing their “First Look.” They enjoyed alone time away from the crowd… all good, which also made for great, awesome photos.
In fact you can see how high their emotions ran, like right here in the seconds before their “First Look” was just about to happen:
Obviously it gives you more experiences and adds memories of your day – and in a very heightened way too. Clearly everything that happens during the First Look is a unique experience you wouldn’t have had if you didn’t take that personal time to be with each other.
And moments with that much emotion to them will be remembered the rest of your life, right?
But now, afterwards, when it came time for their ceremony – do you think the time they spent together earlier took any shine off the magic, special moment when they see each other at the ceremony? Some people argue it would.
Well I need to tell you, it sure didn’t.
I mean, even though he just spent an hour with her, just look at the expression on the groom’s face as he sees his bride make her appearance at the top of the aisle.
Just look at him!
His eyes are tearing up. His lip was quivering. He was feeling it.
And I was right there getting that photo you’re looking at so I can tell you:
When she turned the corner and came into view at the top of the aisle – these two immediately locked eyes on each other. They were beyond riveted on each other.
It was as if there was not a single other soul in the crowd – despite the fact there was a huge throng of guests packed right there between the two of them. Didn’t matter. His eyes were only on her. And hers were only on him.
It was powerful. You could literally feel their energy.
Now you may think that the moral of this little story is “and so, doing the First Look doesn’t take away the magic later” is the second point I wanted to tell you about. But it isn’t.
Having the First Look and spending that quality personal time together earlier on your wedding day ramps up and fuels the emotions to brimming for when the magic moment comes you see each other at your ceremony.
And that makes your ceremony even fuller of excitement, passion and love.
As you can plainly see:
If you’ve up to now only thought of a “First Look” a way not to miss your cocktail hour or some sort of convenience because of taking photos, you now know it’s really about:
More personal unique moments experienced + more emotions stirred = more amazing memories for you to remember, share and cherish the rest of your life.
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