Imagine it’s a year or more after your wedding.
And you’re looking through your wedding photos.
There’s one photo which absolutely means the most to you. It grabs your heart.
What is it a photo of?
What’s the most important photo out of all the photos which can be taken at your wedding?
Some say it would be the couple’s first kiss. Others contend it’s got to be the moment the couple first see each other that day. And there are those who say it’s probably their “official” portrait together that’s the most important wedding photo out of the whole entire day.
But are any of these it?
Search the internet for suggested wedding photos and all sorts of ideas come up, covering from the time the couple’s getting dressed to the last moment of their day, in multiple checklists of the 10 , 20, 50 “must have” wedding shots suggested everyone strive to get.
Look at all the wedding blogs and you’d come away with the idea that the most important wedding photos have to be those which show all the cute crafty stuff on top of dinner tables. Or bridal shoes.
But we all know no one years later cracks open their wedding album to reminisce over their table settings. Or shoes.
So I think this is what it is:
Start with the question, “what is you want to remember?” What would that be?
Okay, so you’re going to say “I want to remember… everything.”
So it’s more about wanting to remember.
And why you want to remember something in particular.
Obviously, you want to remember something when there’s a compelling reason to want to remember it.
So what’s that reason? What is it which creates those reasons as you go through life, which have you wanting to look back at your wedding album yet again, one more time?
It’s when something happens in your life which beckons you to look back.
And that’s usually when there’s a memory tucked somewhere in that collection of wedding photos, a memory which at the moment you want to retrieve and experience again.
And you need to go back into your memories to fetch it because that moment in time no longer exists. It’s no longer possible. Its absence is felt.
Hey, nothing in life is constant and remains forever. Things change. And when it’s gone, it’s missed.
So it could be you want to see a photo from the wedding day of a child you loved so much, who’s now fully grown or gone away, busy in their career, you don’t see them much anymore. Because things have changed.
Maybe you want to see the face of someone you love again, a parent or a grandparent, a relative or dear friend no longer with us.
You want to see this time in your history when everyone you loved came together to celebrate with you. Feel that day’s joy again, relive your laughter, your tears. When everyone was here.
The most important photo? Well, maybe not so much the shoes or the one with the bride stiffly dipped backwards in front of the fountain…
But the most important photo?
It’s going to change.
It changes as things change for you throughout your life.
What you feel right now is the most important photo from your wedding day will be different than what you feel is the most important photo from your wedding day tomorrow, next year, ten years from now, fifty years from now.
And only for a moment of time until life changes things for you yet again.
Which is why it’s impossible to narrow it down to the one most important photo.
Because so many of them are important. If not important today, then their turn comes soon enough.
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