They’ll fight you against doing it. They’d rather be at the dentist getting a root canal. They’ll find 1,001 reasons why they’ve had enough photos taken and prematurely cut your wedding photo session short on your own wedding day leaving you with little to nil selections to choose from. And most of them with the guy looking like he’d rather be anywhere but there.
What am I talking about?
The sheer reluctance of men who don’t want to pose for their wedding photos.
It’s a guy thing.
Not all guys are like this, but then again, many are. They see the tribulations their pals went through on their wedding days by photographers who posed them like stick figures and hated every second of it. They don’t like how those wedding photos turned out. Or they’re guys who feel dorky, awkward, uncomfortable or down right plain stupid in photos.
So if your man relates to anything like that, then read on:
I was asked at a bridal event by Kellee Kahlil (of lover.ly) how to get guys to be more cooperative when it comes time for the wedding portrait taking part of their day.
But I may have surprised her with my answer.
Because to get your guy to wholeheartedly, enthusiastically step up to loving having their photos taken and relishing it all may not exactly be in their nature to do.
Why should it be? The wedding day’s about socializing, partying, celebrating with friends and family, enjoying a milestone in their life. It’s a day of back slapping, handshaking, hugging, laughs, jokes, dancing hard and drinks.
Posing? For photos? Are you kidding? That’s the sort of thing you do for a yearbook.
And that’s the key to why guys feel this way. Posing becomes a job to do on the wedding day. It’s on the level of an errand same as making sure the toilet seat’s down every time. Taking out the garbage. Being asked to hold your bag while you try on clothes in the department store.
You know, the things we guys really look forward to doing…
So if your partner’s like that but you love having portraits taken and want your partner to be more enthusiastic about getting photos taken and be on the same page with you about this, then here’s an aha moment for you.
I found when I didn’t make the portrait session about posing, the grooms I photographed would tell me afterwards that my portrait session was fun.
Can you imagine a guy saying that about taking wedding pictures?
And they’d voluntarily say it on their own accord (without you making him say it to be nice).
With big grins on their faces.
And then what would usually happen next is they’d become the staunchest advocates of getting their wedding photos taken by me.
Even encouraging more photos be taken.
All because I knew how to make it fun for them.
But there was one more secret to getting guys on board that I didn’t tell at the bridal event.
And here’s what that is:
I make the guys look good.
Male vanity can be a very powerful motivator.
I’m not saying males are vain (though they can be). I’m saying that any man with an ounce of self respect takes a little pride in his appearance.
(After all, you wouldn’t be marrying him if he were a slovenly slothful slob.)
And if I help him in that regard by having him look terrific in his wedding portraits, on top of it being fun for him and his partner, that heaps on even more value to getting those portraits completed to your whim and satisfaction.
And he becomes a believer. Hallelujah! Welcome to the Church of G.E. Masana. Thou art now a Masananite.
It’s a pretty good reason right there why guys who get engagement portraits before the wedding are often highly cooperative on their wedding days when it comes to getting the wedding portraits done well.
It’s because they had fun, it was easy, they see it made you happy, they look great in the images… hey, what’s not to like about all that?
And so, on their wedding days the portrait session is a welcomed activity, not a dreaded task.
And their partner (namely you), the one who all along wants as many amazing wedding portraits as possible along with having an equally enthused partner on board – is thrilled with that response.
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